Monday, May 3, 2010
Okay, I need advice. Hair advice. My hair is making me crazy right now. It is a horrible cut. I have to spend 30-40 minutes with a curling iron and mousse to beat it into reasonable submission. I don't have that kind of time on a daily basis.
I want to chop it all off like this:
See, I need something that can be cute fast. I have 5 kids, a house to clean, meals to cook, 10 piano students to teach and a Mary Kay business to look after. I loved this cut. All my girlfriends loved it to and I got tons of compliments each day.
However, there is one person who didn't love it.
You guessed it, my DH. He is wishing for something like this:
This is 4 years ago and was an exceptionally good hair day for me.
The thing is. I'm probably 6-12 months away from that kind of length--if I start remembering to take my vitamins. What do I do between now and then?
Plus, with all the effort, will the DH dole out compliments generously to compensate for said effort? Probably not.
The other day he remarked that I looked "nice". Now, just to clarify, that remark made me much happy. Also, remarks of that nature happen about twice a month these days, sometimes weekly--which is a much higher frequency than the first 10 years of our marriage.
So I'm happy and, you know, grateful for the improvement in positive feedback.
And yet, can you picture me as I spent an hour on my hair that morning? before dashing off to deliver Mary Kay, grocery shop, and knock out my visiting teaching. Do you suppose I was thinking, "I sure hope my husband thinks I look 'nice' today."
"Nice" just doesn't quite make up for the near anxiety attack that I have every time I walk out the door, stressing out about my hair.
I realize that it is a little crazy that I am freaking out about my hair. But here's the thing. I have control over my hair. I can do stuff to it. I often do things to my hair when other things that are bothering me are beyond my control. --hence the fact that I always cut my hair about 2 weeks before I give birth. There is stuff going on in my life right now that I have no control over and it sucks. So instead of worrying over it, I am obsessing over my hair.
So what do you think? Cut it? Not cut it? Mousse it? Dye it? Perm it? To hell with it?
I obsessively await your ideas. Don't worry. I'm only checking the computer every 5 minutes. The rest of the time I am distracting myself with chocolate and avocados.